Fresh off my first *thought would be viral* TikTok, I sit here with a new discovery for you.
After a heart-felt message by me reached (at the time of this blog) 2,806 views, while the one's next to me soared to 150,000-1.2 million, I realized I am not immune to Impostor Syndrome. All day, I compared myself to other post's on the page, on what I assumed would be a joyus-also-get-famous-and-sell-1,000-passive-courses day... I felt immense shame, instead of continuous excitement.
I thought the Female Lead (organization who I partner with + TikTok above) may even take my post down, because I wasn't performing like everyone else...
All these thoughts from a crusader of confidence. How dare I!
Ok, well, first off, I'm a human!
Second, off, I have something extraordinary to share that birthed out of the little shame party I felt, as I bet ya 1,000 bucks - you've felt that too. The difference is when you partner with a big organization you can't *felt cute, might delete* later, cause you know, they're holding you to sharing your magic and they hold the delete button.
I know how exhausting social media is. In fact, I delete my accounts on the reg. My team runs my TikTok, LinkedIn, Instagram, Twitter + YouTube... I deleted Clubhouse and Facebook. Yet, it's currently so necessary to our business - so, what do I suggest you do?
First, quit running around your house with a giant message and going in every door every hour. Imagine you make a sale (YAY) - then you run in your office - yell about it, run in your kitchen - yell about it, then your spare room, back-porch, etc. That's what you do all day when you post on every channel, every day, every hour. OMG.
Second, use my analogy below to decide where you most feel at home, and put all your primary, heart-centered content THERE... then duplicate (or a hire a team) to duplicate your message on the other platforms.
I, now, fresh off my vulnerability hangover, present to you... the social networks as high school groups:
TikTok = Dance Club
Instagram = Popular Girls
Facebook = Teacher's Lounge
Twitter = Yearbook Club
YouTube = Film Club
SnapChat = Girls smoking cigarettes in the bathroom
LinkedIn= Honor Roll
Clubhouse = Assembly
Articles = Me, the kid sitting in the bathroom applying for colleges, awkwardly trying to GTFO of here.
I gotta know, in the comments below: which club are you a part of? And, where are you awkwardly trying to fit in, like me on TikTok, when everyone was like, "Um, wrong table, smart kid."
Entreprenuers are truly a strange breed. I had no clue what one even was until I became one, in fact, I have to google how to spell entrepreneur almost everyday.
We run our worlds online and most of our work BFFs we've never met, but always pretend we are going to meet at the next conference. When it does happen, it's SO fun. Until we realize we are super introverted and want to run home as fast as possible.
There are a few things I've only seen in this world and I'd like to call you sense of humor up front as you scan my list, plz thanks:
Utilizing your Enneagram, Human Design or Astrology as a reason to or not to do something
I can't work with her because she's a projector. She'll be so slow, and I'm an enneagram 7, so that couldn't work; plus Mercury is about to go retrograde.
Hiring a Coach because you don't know what to do without a boss, or because it seems necessary
I have a coach, I am a coach, I love coaches, but you know it's true.
She's going to get me to 7 figures and it only costs 7 figures to work with her!
Hiring another Coach to stay balanced
This is my mindfulness coach.
Stalking writers in magazines you've never even read because your competitor was just published
No, I don't know what Forbes its about; but Gabi if you don't get me in I swear to God.
Having a team bigger than Beyonces
I have a copywriter, a publicist, a financial person, an accountant, a yoga teacher, a health coach. Who am I? Who am I NOT?
Working non-stop but also bathing at 2pm
I can't hear you, Bill, my bubbles are too loud!
Paying for insane food delivery instead of getting some human interaction
Postable, DoorDash, Vegan Food, we love them all! We are busy, dude.
Having literally all the platforms
Slack me, VOX me, What's app me - I'm flexible. But don't e-mail me.
Not knowing what to say at regular human parties....
So, do you guys like click funnels?
Utilizing your Brand as a reason to buy wine
Maybe this is just me. But, it's part of my brand culture to be a little tipsy after 5pm.
Which one was your fave? What'd I miss? Leave me a comment below!
Welcome another fabulous woman here to share her magic, Guest Blogger, Ele Hutt, the GG team storytelling, brand expert! When Ele isn't working on our client's work, she doubles as super woman, as a leader in the healing space and as a working breakthrough coach, you know she is going to share wildly realistic and effective tips with us.
Most of us have been talking about writing a book for ages, but in our day to day, we never seem to find enough time do actually do it, am I right?
Raise your hand if you get overwhelmed just by thinking to add something else to your calendar. 🙋🏼♀️ (Hey, we have blogs for that.)
No shame girl! We all have a crazy busy life (and bills to pay), so how are we supposed to clear out our schedule & block time to write?
Hear me out... I promise these tips can help you get at least 1 hour a day so you can start your book.
We spend most of our time either working, commuting or sleeping, and those hours are often non-negotiable. But what about the rest? The ones we spend cooking, doing the laundry, watching Netflix, using social media, shopping online or laying on the couch daydreaming about the millionaire life we should be living? Are you sure those are non-negotiable too?
Let’s get real!
The first tip to create more free time is to give yourself a break! And by that, I mean a social media break. Before you freak out, hear me out! Unlock your phone and swipe left. How many hours have you spent online today? 1, 2, 5 hours? It may be shocking at first, and this exercise is not to shame you or make you feel bad, it’s to create awareness. Are you sure you can’t use that same time to write the book you’ve always dreamt of writing?
The second tip is to maximize your time whenever possible. How much time do you spend deciding what to eat every day? Or deciding what to wear every morning? Wouldn’t it be easier if it was already planned out? Why not spend some time on Sunday getting your outfits ready and cooking the meals for the entire week? That could clear some time in your schedule to focus on what you actually want to do, write the next bestseller the world is so desperately craving for! 😉
The third tip is to break it into smaller tasks, words instead of chapters or the whole book. It will become easier to find time if you set yourself an achievable daily goal. 500 words? 750 words? 1000 words a day? Whatever you feel comfortable with! I know you may have this belief that you have to rent a beach house and lock yourself there until you finish your book, but who said that’s the only way of actually finishing it? You don’t need a writers retreat to do it. 1000 words a day is better than no words a day don’t you think? Just start.
The fourth tip is to become a time police. I know that there are some days that you only want to binge eat & watch the entire season of YOU, but you got to ask yourself, is this really going to take you closer to your dreams? Probably not! You have to be mindful of what you choose to give your time to, including friends, TV shows, podcasts, and any other distractors. Your story is worth sharing but no one but you can tell it, so it’s time to write it down girl!
Last but not least, stop thinking about it like something else you’ve gotta do. You don’t actually “have to” do it, you WANT to do it, and that’s completely different. When you make writing your obligation, you unconsciously block all the creative juices & inspiration. Why? Because you take all the fun out of it! As a passionate human being, you should write your book because you feel inspired, not because you feel forced to do it. Double-check if the topic you chose inspires the hell out of you cause if it doesn’t, it’s probably not the right book idea. When you’re passionate about it, it becomes easy to want to write at least a word every single day!
Now you know it girl, the answer to not having enough time, is about having the willingness to make the time!
Meritxell Garcia Roig, author of the Art of Empathy, and kickass Gabi Garrett team member has written us one of the most important messages this blog has seen in a while.... how to actually SIT and create the magic you know your pencil wants to create.
I woke up one day and I decided I wanted to write a book. Yes! A book, crazy, right?
Enthusiasm started running through my veins as I started to think about what would be the topic of my book, how would I organize the outline but something started to grow in the back of my mind: self-doubt.
I am sure you know the tone that the voice of self-doubt uses to talk to you and how critical it is. Listen to my critical voice for a second:
I catch my self-doubt voice running the show in the back of my mind but there is a stronger voice that wants to take the lead and says:
If I have learned something is that the voice of encouragement is the one I wanted to hear when I started to write my own book.
I had no idea how to write a book because I had never written a book before but that was the beauty of it, everything was possible. I could build it up from the ground up with my own rules, learning, struggling, falling and getting up again.
Writing is for everyone who wants to write. You only need to have your unique vision of reality or create your own reality but whatever is the genre or the piece you produce it will be unique because you did it and you are like no one else.
There is no one like you. No one can write like you do and this is the key for you to believe that no matter where you start the path the important thing is to start walking.
Writing is a path that regardless of where you start walking the importance lies in the pace, no matter how slow or fast you go, don't stop, don’t look back.
Writing is a skill we all have but what makes a writer a writer is perseverance. A writer is someone who never stopped writing and maybe that's why we idealize writers, artists or musicians, we believe there is a special place in heaven that is only for them. I used to believe that myself.
No matter how loud the voice of self-doubt is you need to make the voice of encouragement your guidance. You can do anything you set yourself up to do if you persevere and you work from encouragement and not self-defeat.
If you have been wanting to write a book for the longest time now is the new later. Start today, set up five minutes each day to sit down and create the habit of writing.
Believe me when I say if you write about something that it is in touch with your soul you will carve time out from nowhere to get this rush of having a time and a place to share a bit of you with others through words, through your experience, and through your creativity.
Be determined to get this piece of you out there that others can benefit from. Writing a book is no different than deciding to do a yoga course, learn something new, start taking piano lessons or decide to get into plant-based cooking.
As anything new we are not familiar with fit and fear is the natural reaction. We want to run away from fear because it is uncomfortable and we have many reasons from our self-doubt voice that say: You are not enough, you can’t do it.
The trick though is to use this fear to propel you forward. We all have fears. The difference lies in how we use that fear to our advantage.
What is the worst that can happen? That you write a book that won’t become a best seller? You will have written a book, this is the accomplishment. To walk through the path and give it all you have to give, learn and educate yourself, seek help, look for guidance, read other books of similar topics than yours, observe how others do it but above all Sit and Write.
If there is one thing I am certain about is that no book was finished by thinking about it. The difference between writers and those who want to write is that writers sit and write even when they don't feel like it, even when they don't know where it will take them, even when the result is not good but especially they write exactly when all the odds are against them. Because writing anytime is what makes you walk the path of writing your book.
There is always something in you waiting to be written on a piece of paper and the only thing you have to do is show up. Sit and write.
You might know that I'm an over-analyzer, and I'm really deep, so I'm sitting still one morning and I hop up, like "I'm really in the vibe to attract new content clients..."
And then my Inner Mean Girl takes over, making me say things like, "Hey...Why don't I have 10 clients? Why is everyone not here? What am I doing, the wrong business? Should I do a different business?"
This is something I do a lot. Can you relate? It's like you are all the sudden like WAIT, A SEC.. EVERYTHING NEEDS TO BE DIFFERENT, NOW!
MANIC MANIFESTING as Gabby Bernstein would say, and then I have to tell myself, "Alright, calm down, and just keep going. You've got this." (I guess that's my inner coach!)
To give you an example of what I'm talking about, maybe you also have a side hustle or you just started teaching yoga and your inner mean girl / guy makes you say, "WTF, Why don't I have 60 people in my class or why isn't my crochet undies sold out on my Etsy page yet?"
Short answer: Because no one *really* knows about you yet. (No offense)
I've been writing freelance for two years. I have a fancy brand as of January, but I have not fully dove into helping other badass women up until recently because I've been working as a full-time person for realtors (hidden!).
It's so very easy to think because you don't have immediate results that you're in the wrong place. Especially if you're like me and you read a lot of books and the law of attraction or you just are impatient as hell, right?
You and your anti-coach are like, "Well, I'm doing the wrong thing, or I'd be rich already or I'm with the wrong person, or I'd be married already or I'm not going to the right workout class or I'd be skinny already."
You know one of those is you! Admit it... likely, whatever is most important to you right now, you're analytically deciding that it's not profitable, whether it's with your time or your monetary resources, et cetera, because you're not a sold-out success.
I want you to think of your favorite performer, or band, or famous entrepreneur and then I'll get to my point.
For example, I saw Taylor Swift in Huntsville back in probably 2008, my mom got us tickets when she was just starting, and performed at the military arsenal (cool!) Taylor was so nervous and she kept playing with her hair and kept saying, "Oh my god, guys." It was cute. She was so nervous, and grateful.
Yet... if someone told Taylor Swift that day when I was 15 and she was probably 19, "Hey, Guess what? You're going to be the number one pop star in the world."
How do you think she would have reacted?
Maybe she would've been f***ing terrified, if so, she'd probably have got below the stage and started crying or she would've been pumped....not sure.
If someone came up to you right now and told you your five years from now future, you wouldn't be ready for it. (Truly)
So, are you willing to just go on this roller coaster ride AKA follow the zests, jolts, etc. into your cool future? Wait for your tribe?
We're both at the casual part of our ride, like Beyonce in Destiny's child or Justin Timberlake and NSYNC, or Taylor Swift in Huntsville.
So, are you willing to be on this low part of the ride and not know what's going to happen next? Are you willing to take the slow part and start to prepare for the eventual uptick?
Because once you go up, you're not going to stop, okay? You know how roller coasters work.
What can you do now in the calm before the storm to prepare yourself for the inevitable loop of your success?
Can you not change the channel? Can you stay where you are and can you chase this dream and can you trust that you can't just decide to be someone else every other minute and hope that will produce success?
You've got to sit on this roller coaster and allow it to uptick naturally, your success is inevitable.
I hope this was helpful to you. If you don't know, I have a course, It's by donation, a book that's also by donation and a relatively inexpensive coaching call with me, so if you want to work with me this year before my uptick, let's go - more deets below!
Get in your back to the future, clothes, Marty McFly - it's time to prance our way into 2021, 2025 and 2030 so we can meet your future selves and find out what's in store for you.
Feel free to read this blog first, then follow with this pre-recorded meditation / audio-exercise. (P.S. We can work together on this with 1:1 sessions if you're down.)
Before we head into our time travel G-Wagon, I need to cover some ground rules:
We'll start by warming up your imagination. I am praying it isn't too rusty for your inner child's sake, but if it is, that's ok. To begin, I want you to close your eyes and take three deep breaths. Imagine you are sweeping out any thoughts about that annoying Facebook comment, your current waistline, or your Chipotle in the fridge. Do that now.
Ah, now I want you to imagine a killer badass G-Wagon time travel machine and I am driving you.
Ok, you're in the car and we're about to take off into the future.
First stop: January 1, 2030.
We've flash-forwarded a DECADE! Take about 2-3 minutes to really imagine you've arrived at the doorstep of your future. (Remember there is an audio version of this blog you can use by clicking here.)
Once you've hung out in your 2030 image, Let's look around:
Now, write out EVERYTHING you can in your journal. Take as much time as you need, including details like what surprised you, what elated you... what energized you.
Say bye to 2030 you, I know she's sexy, but back in the G-Wagon, Jill-y.
Next stop, January 1, 2025.
Half-way to the 2030 version of you, you were likely working hard to make that dream a reality. Let's take a few minutes to visualize this you.
Again, journal about the 2025 version of you, leaving no detail unturned.
When you're ready, hop into the G-Wagon for our last stop.
We've scooted to one year (ish) from today: It's January 1, 2021.
You know the drill.
Great work, sister friend. Now, let's pull over on Saturn... nah, too hot, this planet will do. Before we get back to your real life, let's review your three years/spots and collect our notes. ( Don't forget: We can work together on this with 1:1 sessions if you're down.)
After comparing and contrasting all 3 stops, what are the predominant strengths you saw in your future self? What made you your most excited, brilliant version of you?
I'd like for you to pick one tangible item you saw in your visions: a stage, a book, or a house, perhaps.
Next, pick one feeling that your future self exuded: confidence, sexy vibes, glow... whatever comes to you.
Lastly, you have one question to answer:
What one thing could you do today to walk towards that tangible object, while feeling that feeling?
Ask yourself that question every single morning, and watch the magic unfold.
I hope this was fun for you! Please leave me a note in the comments on what this exercise unveiled for you.
It was the Sunday before my 28th birthday, Chris and I were enjoying a glass of champagne on our front porch #BAMAStyle. He took a phone call, which always leaves me a bit awkward... I typically have my phone off if I have a cocktail, so I'm just sitting there like a duck starring at the road. Then, it hit me!
Let me turn said electronic device on and plan something.
The thought danced in my head, as if ready for its party debut:
"Wouldn't it be fun to go to the Grand Hotel for manicures and pedicures on Friday with my friends?"
First, I texted my two pals who live nearby to make sure they could go. It was a no-brainer yes for them.
Now, onto call the Grand Hotel, or 'Grand Station', as they adorably call their main customer service line. I wrote an article for the Grand when they reopened their lovely spa at the end of 2018, so I had a few hookups. I asked if they wouldn't mind my friends and I coming for the day, in exchange for media coverage (AKA Magazines, Blogs, etc. Learn more about that here.)
I got not only another, "YES", but also, a delicious media rate so Chris and I could stay for the weekend.
Of course, I was thinking, "Damn, I should drink champagne every day."
As the week progressed, we packed, called the dog sitter, did the things... oh, and naturally celebrated my birthday eve, also known as Halloween:
Finally, Friday, my birthday day arrived! I drove to the Grand Hotel, windows down in my jeep... feeling so thrilled this had all spontaneously come together. As I pulled around the scenic drive of the Grand Hotel, I immediately felt relaxed.
I love Point Clear, Alabama. I love the Grand Hotel. I love VALETING!
I dropped Jeep-y off with the kind man and he took my baggage. As I waited for my room, I walked out back to return some kind birthday messages.
The butterflies were a good omen for what was to come. I understand I was "media" at the hotel, but I was treated like a royal princess. The way the Grand treats its guests is unparalleled. I got a gift almost every corner I went through! The staff even signed a birthday card for me.
I'd never felt so special.
My friends arrived a few hours later, for a cocktail and spa time:
After enjoying a dip and more champagne, of course, I waited for my boyfriend and friends to join me for dinner.
Of course, I got excited and ordered room service for my pre-dinner bash. I could really get use to picking up a 'house phone' and having my wishes met!
Once the gang had arrived, we headed to the fire pits for cocktails, then out to a lovely dinner in Fairhope. The sunsets are INCREDIBLE in this area, but as you know, I had a cocktail, so my phone was up in the room. (Presence!)
The following day, Chris and I enjoyed another spa day, naps and an incredible dinner at the hotel.
By the end of the weekend, I was refreshed, amazed at my manifestation abilities and as always... so grateful I became a writer.
Here I am, 5:05 PM on a Monday. I've reached the end of my 'allotted' working hours. Yet, as the one who created this rule... I'm prone to break it. So, I hop on Instagram for just 15 more minutes... I then realize my house is pretty clean, my boyfriend isn't available for another hour...so, I ask myself the question I ask almost every day around this time:
"To Work, or Not to Work?"
That's my question.
If you work from home or are passionate about work - you've likely had this same question cross your frontal lobe when you get 5-20 extra minutes. It's the sensation called, "real quick."
Let me just do my IG stories real quick. Let me just check in on Sandy real quick. Let me just do tomorrow's task real quick.
Why do we default to working mode?
I have a few general ideas. For women, we are naturally people-pleasing. For all of us who are empathetic, we're also prone to be aware of other's emotional needs - meaning we think, "Gosh, Sam would be so happy if he had this right now." And, the cherry on top, for those of us entrepreneurs or passionate worker bees, we're also natural drivers.
...Damn, so is this even worth exploring? Will we ever change?
I think we want to.
Or at least, we're willing to explore the possibility that there's life outside of work.
Here's my solution:
List out what you did the past 3 days, then dive deep into if it feels or looks or acts like a work task.
If you could do anything with your free 5 seconds-5 hours a week... what would you do?
I'm writing this to myself too... so, let's go slow - go to the coffee shop without your laptop. Practice not perfect, friend.
Let me know in the comments the first action you'll take from this, plus, I'd love to hear if you enjoyed it. Share it with a pal and let's help each other gain space and mental clarity.
As a sales professional, I know you’re presented with non-stop *new* tactics to move your products, increase awareness and even expand into new markets. But, with limitless suggestions, some faulty and some fabulous - the question is - what is really going to work for you?
You love your product and want it to succeed. Why doesn’t everyone else?
Simple answer: Everyone shouldn’t love your product. If they did, your product, service or offering wouldn’t be solving a specific problem. Think about it, even Coca Cola isn’t for everyone.
The solution to finding out what really works is "niching" down or specifying your demographic. The idea of getting specific initially scares a lot of us because it instantly creates a lacking feeling and thoughts like:
Whether you’re selling to B2B or B2C, you can use this customer avatar exercise to get more specific about who you’re really talking to, which will actually create the opposite effect of scarcity.
Besides the ease of clarity and focus (A.K.A reduced overwhelm), here's why defining your ideal customer avatar matters:
You will increase your ROI in every Marketing effort by getting clear:
Targeted messaging also means:
Here's how you define your avatar:
For this exercise, if you’re selling B2C, we will keep one person in mind, as they will represent your consumer group.
If you’re selling B2B, I recommend keeping a department or a specific C-Suite executive in mind as you go through this exercise. For example, when I worked in healthcare sales, I created an avatar of the CEO, the CNO (Chief Nursing Officer) and their administrative assistants as I knew they were a decision-making team.
We’ll start with a few deep questions:
Next, Let’s get clear on what they look like:
For B2B sales professionals, If you have a group of consumers to consider, you can answer this for each individual in the group. For B2C sales professionals, focus on one representation for your collective target audience.
Now that you have a clear idea of who your avatar is, you can apply this information immediately by taking the following actions:
If you’d like to work with a media strategist and communication expert whose work has been published in the USA Today Network among many other online blogs - check out my strategy sessions here. As a bonus for blog readers, I’m happy to include the exact metrics you need to include when creating your next social media ad.
There I was sitting in front of my laptop, waiting for a new friend to tell me all my past life secrets, and hopefully shed some clarity on my current irritation around making money for my work. I was setting up for my first Akhasic Records session.
“Do you meditate?” my guide asked me as we opened up our video conference call.
“Yes, I do,” I responded, hoping that my mindful breathwork, my mala bead evening ritual, and habitual guided meditations would give me a gold star in the spiritual realm.
“Ok, I will now say three prayers to open your records,” Silvana, my guide, stated.
To imagine the Akashic Records, Silvana says to picture a file cabinet where every soul’s past and present lives. She says by getting deep into meditation, certain beings can get quiet enough to receive the information from each of our spirit guides, who manage the file cabinets.
Silvana says often in our present lives, we’re often blocked by what has happened in our past lives. You’ve probably heard this before – if you didn’t heal it in your past life, it will come back until you’ve moved past the lesson. In that context, Akashic Records professionals act as librarians with the key cards to move us past our baggage, past, and present.
As we’re getting ready to open my file cabinet, I feel an odd sense of calm. I’ve been on the enlightenment journey for quite some time; I’ve received psychic readings, energy clearings, reiki attunements and about anything else you could think of. Most of the time, I feel like I’m about to squirm right out of lotus pose and into another dimension, but today, I feel eager and ready to see what’s in my proverbial files.
Silvana gave me permission to hit the record button on our video chat, my files were officially open. I pressed record and stared ahead like an eager puppy at treat time.
A multitude of thoughts ran through my head, such as, “What were they going to tell me? Was I a murderer in a past life? I sure hope not…”
As the worrisome thoughts danced through my frontal lobe, I urged myself to sit down and be quiet, as my brain was basically popped open like the hood of my car and everyone was watching.
Samos spoke, likely eager to interrupt my thought dance, “Your spirit guides show me an office. You are sitting at a desk, very overwhelmed, yet you keep saying yes to each paper that comes to you.”
I agree and immediately guide the conversation right past my people-pleasing tendencies and towards who I was in other dimensions.
What came next amazed me:
“I am seeing a past life,” Silvana said, “You’re running in a field. By your clothing, I’m assuming it’s about the end of the 19th century.”
I’m listening, ears perked up.
“In this life, all of your sisters have gotten married but you. You are like the black sheep of the family. You would rather spend your time writing poems by the lake than worrying about getting a husband. This greatly irritates your parents and they are always pushing you to find a husband,” she continued.
I was stunned – the parallels of this life to mine were uncanny.
Silvana shared with me that Danielle published her collection of poems in the New York Times. I was shaking in my boots at this point. She continued to tell me that Danielle was pleased to have her poems continuously grace the pages of the newspaper, but what she really wanted was a book. Though she did go on to get married, her family life interrupted this dream of seeing her words in a leather-bound format.
This made my childhood make so much sense. My family always recounts stories of me, hiding in my room with a typewriter, telling anyone that would listen, “I’m going to be a famous writer this time.”
Our session continued into other fascinating aspects, but my biggest takeaway was the connection to my strong word-ly desires. Knowing that my passion to write has come from a lineage of purpose, reinvigorated my desire to share my voice with the world and charge appropraitely for it – it’s ok to make money for our magic.
I encourage you to dive into your records! You never know what your past has inspired you to create in your present.